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Is it wrong to be a stalker fangirl? - I worship at the television altar
Is it wrong to be a stalker fangirl?
A few days ago I posted a picspam of Tom Welling with scruff HERE. [WARNING: The link takes you directly to the picspam, but there are spoilers for S8 of Smallville above the pics, and in the comments, so be careful or don't click if you want to stay spoiler free.] One of the pics I included was a candid shot taken by a paparazzo, but every time I looked at the picspam, it gave me a twinge of guilt, so the next day I removed it, and replaced it with a couple more shots taken at public events. And that got me thinking about the conflict between my desire to know everything about Tom, and his inherent right to privacy. The funny thing is, later the same day that I decided to remove the candid pic, I had my own privacy violated here on LJ, which has been a horrible experience. It certainly has given me a more personal perspective on the subject.

Before this picspam, I had looked at my fair share of paparazzi shots of Tom, but he never looked happy in them, and I always felt guilty, especially if he was glaring at the camera. I never went looking for those pics, and I had only ever saved a couple of them. But if you're looking for scruffy Tom, those shots are a great resource, because he's most often caught on film during hiatus, when he's in full yeti mode. So for this picspam I googled "Tom Welling" and "candids," and wow, did I get an eyeful. In the end, I only used one of them, but then thought better of even that. Thank goodness Tom made The Fog, which gave me my choice of pics where he was both deliciously scruffy and impossibly sexy! :)

One set of pics in particular brought home to me how hard it must be to have even the simplest of joys, ones we all take for granted, if you're a celebrity. It's a series of pics taken from a distance of Tom walking down the street with Bonnie Hunt, his costar from the CBTD movies. They look completely happy and relaxed, talking and laughing and making funny faces. I already feel like an intruder just looking at this obviously private conversation. Then someone approaches them, and their whole demeanor changes. They suddenly look serious, and wary, and all the lightness of their shared moment is instantly gone. Of course, I don't know what the person said to them, it kind of looks like she's asking for directions, but my cynicism tells me she talked to them out of all the people on the street because she recognized them. And because of all the past experiences I'm sure they've had, they have to be cautious and careful. And regardless of how much money you get paid to be a famous actor, that has got to suck.

So how much privacy is someone like Tom entitled to? Certainly being recognized goes hand in hand with success as an actor, and how much we love (and watch) Tom to some degree directly affects how big his paycheck is, but does that mean we own some part of him? Are we entitled to access? Does he "owe" us anything? Is his evident reluctance in recent years to do public appearances, interviews, episode commentaries, or even a gag reel a slap in the face to his fans, or simply a choice that is his to make?

Personally, I don't think Tom owes us anything beyond the best performance he can possibly muster on Smallville each week. Sure, I wish he would do more to promote the show, because selfishly I want to see as much of him as I possibly can. I wish he would do interviews, because his past ones have been delightful, and I miss them. I want to know what he thinks about acting, directing, his roles, and his future plans after Smallville. I'd love to see him do photo shoots, because I think he is the most gorgeous man on the planet, and his beauty is beyond wasted on Smallville, hidden under baggy jeans and that stupid red jacket. I would kill for him to record an episode commentary, because he's smart, and funny, and insightful, and vastly entertaining. And don't even get me started on the gag reel.

But whether it's because he works impossibly long hours on the show and has no time, or because he's shy, or because he doesn't have anything positive to say about the show and so chooses to remain diplomatically silent, or simply because he doesn't feel like it, and prefers to stay completely private, I do think that is entirely his choice. As a fangirl, I am disappointed beyond measure, but not bitter or angry. If that's what he wants, I have to respect that.

I wonder if Tom realizes how much pent up demand there is to see him in print and on film? Does he have any clue about the degree to which the internets exploded when we got back to back appearances in the pages of Vogue, and then on the red carpet at the Costume Institute Gala at the Met? If I had more legitimate ways to see Tom, I wouldn't be so tempted to look at the paparazzi pics, but I suppose the more he puts himself in the public eye, the more they'll hound him. Celebrity. It's a blessing and a curse.

So what about you guys? Do you think Tom's life is open game, that full fan access just comes with the territory? Do you look at every pic of him you can find, and save them all to your hard drive? Do those looks of smoldering rage he sometimes directs at the camera lens make you uncomfortable, or do you just think he looks hot? :) If you saw Tom out and about, would you approach him, maybe ask him for a photo or an autograph? Tell me your take on the whole issue of privacy for celebrities in the comments!

And finally, I leave you with three promo pics of Tom, all taken while he was working. :)

These have all been cropped just a bit. Original images courtesy of andreas_ri, with my thanks! ♥

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tasabian From: tasabian Date: July 26th, 2008 10:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
So how much privacy is someone like Tom entitled to?
He's definitely entitled to have a peaceful morning on his own veranda, without photographers bothering him! Or be able to load his dogs into the car, or walk home with his groceries, unscrutinized.

But if he's walking down a busy street, ie Ventura Blvd in LA, Robson St in Vancouver, the boardwalk in the Hamptons, or he's at a Red Sox game....IMO, there's less expectation of privacy & he's probably resigned to some attention.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 26th, 2008 11:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, I guess it's true you have to expect to be recognized and approached if you're in a busy and public area. Still, I wouldn't interrupt someone if they were in conversation with someone, or having a meal, or obviously trying to go incognito.

I think I remember an interview with Jensen Ackles where, when asked how he managed to stay out of the tabloids, he said it was easy enough to avoid attention if you really wanted to. It reminded me of that movie Soapdish, where Sally Field's character would take a trip to the mall whenever she needed the ego boost of having fans fawn all over her, all the while protesting that she didn't want to be recognized. :)

And I'm still keeping this icon from a candid pic, because I just love it too much to give it up. :) So I guess I'm a hypocrite. LOL!
carolandtom From: carolandtom Date: July 26th, 2008 11:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
I save every pic of Tom I can find and I wish there were many more, but I fully respect Tom's right to privacy. I know what celebrities have to go through sometimes and I know how hard that can be to many of them. I respect Tom and I completely respect his choices and his right to making them.

Thanks for the gorgeous pics.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 12:12 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm sure the adjustment to fame can be really difficult. Some actors crave the attention and love the limelight, while others let it go to their head and careen out of control. I admire Tom for obviously keeping such a level head and down to earth attitude in the face of the attention he's received. If he needs to maintain some degree of separation from the whirlwind of celebrity in order to maintain his sanity, I'm just glad it works for him. But I, too, wish there were many more pics of Tom to enjoy!

I couldn't post about Tom without including a few pics, now could I? :) I'm glad you liked them!
jude_judith82 From: jude_judith82 Date: July 27th, 2008 12:01 am (UTC) (Link)
Though I would love for Tom to do more interviews and appearances I think he should be able to hang out at his home, walk his dogs, etc. without having a gazillion pictures taken.

Does he "owe" us anything?

All he really owes really is what he already does which is bring it every week on SV. He is probably the hardest working actor on the series so as long as he's not phoning it in I think it's all good.

Edited at 2008-07-27 12:04 am (UTC)
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 12:31 am (UTC) (Link)
I think when he lived in Vancouver, it wasn't a problem at all. Now that he spends so much time in L.A., and especially after all the hoopla about the JLA movie, he's on their radar. It's a measure of his success, but one I'm sure he'd rather do without.

I do think Tom is extremely professional when it comes to his performance. He seems to work incredibly hard, and to lead by example. One of the reasons I remain such an ardent fan of the show is that I know Tom won't let me down, and will do whatever he can to make even the craziest stories and scripts compelling.
stoodupforlove From: stoodupforlove Date: July 27th, 2008 12:26 am (UTC) (Link)
Holy cow, this reply turned out to be WAY longer than I'd planned. Forgive me for going off in your LJ like this, but you asked! lol I had to break this up into two comments, good Lord!

Do you think Tom's life is open game, that full fan access just comes with the territory?

No. "Full" is the key word there. Fan access should be given only in controlled environments or by happenstance meeting (i.e. Tom shopping at my store and me recognizing him and perhaps asking for an autograph...or a quickie in the stockroom ;P).

Do you look at every pic of him you can find, and save them all to your hard drive?

Yes. Absolutely yes. Do I feel guilty about it sometimes, like the pics of him jogging when he so obviously doesn't want to be caught on camera? Yes. Does that stop me from saving the pics and studying them? No. I guess because...the damage is already done. Me not looking at a pic isn't going to keep it from circulating, though pics like that I find that I only share with my best friend. I don't post them, because like you I feel like we're invading his private life. I don't pay for the pics, of course, either. If I did, then I would be helping to circulate them in some way. But I do save them and study them because...well, because it's like I'm starving for something, anything! Since Tom doesn't do interviews much, and he doesn't do gag reels and commentaries anymore (I miss that), and he doesn't put himself in the public eye...I take what I can get. I'm not saying he has a responsibility to appear in public more often; he certainly doesn't. But being a fangirl, it's in my nature to want more. And if won't give more willingly, then when it's thrown in my face I'm certainly going to take. What I would give to know more about his thoughts and ideas!

Do those looks of smoldering rage he sometimes directs at the camera lens make you uncomfortable, or do you just think he looks hot? :)

Um...both. lol They make me very uncomfortable, and I tend to not look at those pics for very long because it's like he's angry at me! But I do save them, and look at them occasionally. And doesn't he ALWAYS look hot?

tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 12:53 am (UTC) (Link)
I have a greater appreciation for conventions since I've come to learn more about fandom on LJ. Both the fans and the actors know what to expect, and it's a total celebration of the fan experience. You can squee to your heart's content (within the limits of common courtesy, of course, no crazy flying fangirls, thank you), and the actors can revel in it.

I'm no saint, I looked at every single photo that popped up in my search, but a lot of them made me really uncomfortable. As you say, it's like he's looking at me with those angry eyes. *shivers*
stoodupforlove From: stoodupforlove Date: July 27th, 2008 12:26 am (UTC) (Link)

Part II

If you saw Tom out and about, would you approach him, maybe ask him for a photo or an autograph?

My answer to this is...it depends. It depends on where, when, and what he's currently doing. I have met many celebrities (most of them hair metal gods that I used to obsess over), and even when I was younger I felt a sense of guilt at times, though most times I met them it was in a place where fans were known to be. Jensen is right--it's not hard to stay out of the public eye, one just needs to know how and be constantly aware; Tom is proof of that. Let me give you an example (because apparently I am in a totally rambling mood today):

In 1991 I went to a NAMM convention. Lots of musicians there. Nuno Bettencourt of Extreme had a booth there, and when he showed up for an autograph session he was mobbed by horny females (myself included). I absolutely got an autograph (with a friend's help because I'm SO shy around celebrities) and didn't feel guilty about it in the slightest.

In 1995 I went to an Extreme show in Hollywood. After the concert, some of the fans gathered around the tour bus to wait for the musicians and ask for autographs (and I'm sure some of them hoped to get on that bus as well). This is a common occurrence and I'm sure the band expected to be hounded. So they came out one at a time, and I met all three of the guys I had not previously met. Great guys. Finally Nuno came out, and he was mobbed the worst because he's the most gorgeous one, and as I got closer to him I noticed how tired he looked. He was polite, but it was so obvious to me that all he wanted was to get on that bus and relax, away from all the celebrity crap. My friend asked for an autograph from him and a hug, which he gave her, but I couldn't do it. We were among the last few girls and I walked away and my friend asked what I was doing, that was Nuno! I told her that the best present we could give him right then was to leave and let him get on with his life. So we did.

So in response to your question above, I would and have approached stars for autographs; I have also let them be. I imagine that if I ever did meet Tom, I would be much too shy to approach him. And then I'd kick myself for months afterward. But what's most important to remember about celebrities is that they are real people, and they have moods like we do. Just because Tom is out walking in the street, it doesn't mean he wants to be approached; however, if he IS walking on the street, then he has put himself in that position to be approached. It's up to us, not to him, to make the right decision. I think we have to be intuitive enough to know when it's okay and when it's not okay to be a fangirl, and he have to stick by that knowledge if the opportunity presents itself.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 01:01 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: Part II

I think it's hard to strike a balance, to know when it's okay to approach someone, and when it isn't. All you can do is what you did: try to be sensitive to what vibe they are giving off at the moment, and act accordingly. A lot is going to depend on the circumstances, of course.
jeannev From: jeannev Date: July 27th, 2008 01:06 am (UTC) (Link)
I think Tom is entitled to TOTAL privacy when he's in, or around, his own home. But I do have to say, when he's in a public place, he probably has to endure something snapping a picture of him. Thats part of the price of celebrity. That doesn't mean I advocate anyone harassing him, or pursuing him, or stalking him. But take those pics of him in Sam's Camera. The pictures seem to be taken from a discreet distance. It doesn't seem that he was harassed or impeded in any way. I think thats fair.

I also would love to read more interviews with Tom, and see more photo shoots. But I completely respect his decision not to do them, for whatever his reasons are. I don't feel he owes me, or anyone, that. If it hurts his career, well, thats his choice to make, and he's clearly intelligent to know how being so publically scarce might effect his career.

And I admit it...I love any picture of him. *ashamed*
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 01:37 am (UTC) (Link)
As always, you get right to the heart of the matter. When most actors do interviews or photo shoots, it's to promote the show they're on, because they want their employment to continue, or to promote themselves, in the interest of creating new opportunities for other projects. Realistically, it's never about pleasing their fans. :)

Obviously Tom isn't concerned about either of those things at the moment. One could well imagine that he would be ambivalent about the continued success of Smallville, but as we've discussed many times before, I worry that he shows no desire to promote himself because he's ambivalent about acting altogether. I hope not, and I still hope his recent activities indicate he's beginning to look to a future in acting beyond Smallville, but only time will tell, especially with Tom.

And you know I get ridiculously excited whenever I see a new pic of our boy. I just have to look sideways at the ones where he's pissed, and not meet those angry eyes! LOL!
pep_singer From: pep_singer Date: July 27th, 2008 03:49 am (UTC) (Link)
I refuse to look at pictures of Tom (or any celeb) when they are home. Home is something private and sacred, IMO.

However, if they are walking down the street from the grocery store or camera store, then I think it's fair game as long as they aren't being disrupted.

I think the only thing Tom owes us is a good performance because he's an actor. Anything else is totally extra, IMO.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 02:55 pm (UTC) (Link)
How awful it would be to feel trapped in your own home, knowing that if you step outside someone will be waiting for you. When Clark talked about that in Action, I thought, I'll bet these are lines Tom can relate to.

I agree that anything else is extra, but that doesn't stop me from wishing for more! :)
starry_dawn From: starry_dawn Date: July 27th, 2008 03:16 pm (UTC) (Link)
ITA with everything you said, 100%. I do feel disappointed that we see so little of him outside, and that he doesn't do commentaries or gag reels (though how much of that is his doing, I don't know), but I'm certainly not angry with him for any of that. I personally don't think he owes us anything, and it definitely makes me more than a little uncomfortable to see candid pictures of a clearly-not-happy Tom. So, yeah. If invading his privacy is the only way we get to see candid pictures of him? I'd rather not see them at all. The promo pics, like you so smartly showed us, are good enough. :)
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 09:11 pm (UTC) (Link)
What a shocker, we agree! :D I do hate to think of Tom being bothered, and I'm sure one of the reasons he keeps such a low profile is to prevent it. The mobs of photographers who constantly surround some celebrities are truly frightening.

Today at Comic-Con, Allison was quoted as saying that Tom wished he could have been there, but he was busy filming. HAHAHAHA!! I'm sorry, but I don't know how she could even get that out with a straight face. I love my Tommy, but do I believe he wanted to be there for the fans at Comic-Con? Not for a nanosecond.

BTW, I'm so glad you did your alphabet post, and I have it bookmarked, but I haven't had time to read it and comment properly. Even now, as I type this, I'm at work, wolfing down a sandwich before I get back to the grind. I'm so sorry! In a few days things will be much better, and I'll be able to catch up.
la_belle_isa From: la_belle_isa Date: July 27th, 2008 04:22 pm (UTC) (Link)
What an interesting subject and dear to my heart.

One local celebrity here said that the more you give to fans, the more they want.
I think Tom's discretion is the best decision he ever made in his career and that it has a lot more advantages than inconvenients for him.
Inconvenients being taking the chance to lose some fans who like more outgoing celebrities and losing a bit of celebrity.
The advantages are to keep a sane and more balanced life, and also to keep a part of mystery about him. Which by the way, is exactly what he said in an interview about him being that much private.

About candid pics, I believe all celebrities have to deal with a certain amount of privacy violation but IMO, it's totally unacceptable when a person is obviously hounding him like the jogging pics and of course, the pics taken on his front porch.
(And by the way, for once, he didn't seem to mind in the series of pics that your avi is from; he was even smiling at the camera in one of them.)

Of course, I would like to hear more interviews with him because he's delightful and intelligent and I LOVE his real voice but hey, the man is not perfect and so far, it's his only flaw as far as I'm concerned! But I admire him so much for everything else, that it really doesn't matter to me.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 27th, 2008 09:25 pm (UTC) (Link)
One local celebrity here said that the more you give to fans, the more they want.

That's fascinating, and I'm sure it's true. I'm constantly shocked by how entitled some people seem to feel around the object of their adoration. And as you say, there can be a steep price to pay in exchange for giving yourself up to your fans. Tom obviously has wisdom as well as intelligence to his credit.

I don't know how the paparazzi do it. What an awful profession, no matter how much it pays. And thank you for validating one of my favorite icons! :)

I'm hoping that as the end of Smallville draws near, Tom will be more interested in promoting himself for the sake of his future career, and maybe we'll get an interview or two. A girl can dream, can't she? I also hope he'll do his friend Bonnie Hunt a favor and appear on her new talk show this fall!
acampbell From: acampbell Date: July 28th, 2008 02:11 am (UTC) (Link)
I've gone around and around on this topic countless times in my own LJ and elsewhere, and since I tend to be a bit mean-spirited in my views that someone who chooses a career in the public eye and reaps the benefits should accept the attendant responsibilities of celebrity--and have been roundly verbally thrashed on more than one occasion--I'll say only at this point that TW has my extreme admiration for being able to hold a successful acting career and yet maintain his privacy to the extent he does.

Realistically, of course, I'm not in favor of fans OR papparazzi being extremely intrusive. But I sure wish Tom would show up at more conventions and do more public appearances. Though I sure can't blame him for not wanting to promote SV over the past couple of years, if that's contributing to his lack of activity.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 28th, 2008 03:45 am (UTC) (Link)
It is interesting to consider why he stopped promoting the show, because he certainly used to do interviews and such. Did he have a bad experience that forever soured him on the media? Did he care less about pleasing TPTB as he got older and more secure? Was he always shy and uncomfortable, as some people have said, and finally just couldn't endure it any more? I know that sometimes contracts include promotional obligations. If Tom's did, maybe he renegotiated that out when he extended his to eight seasons, at the same time securing the infamous "no tights" clause. In any case, I obviously think about this way too much! LOL!

And I hope people know that I don't mean to pass judgment on anyone who feels differently than I do. It's so interesting to me that while pretty much everyone agrees that Tom is entitled to his privacy, there are various opinions of exactly what that means. I've seen discussion of this issue before, including in your journal, and people draw the line of acceptable intrusion in all different places, ranging from his front door to the outer reaches of the planet. :)
From: seacrystal Date: July 28th, 2008 07:23 am (UTC) (Link)
I have to admit that I have never actively followed any celebrity anyway, outside from their own performances and whatever news I come across them in the fandom. I rarely open up the entertainment news and the actor/actresses forums are ones least visited in any of the message boards I've been posting at. ;P

That said, I think most of these people do know what they're in for when they decided to get involved with the industry, and the fans themselves should be able to have respect for their privacy by default. There's a time for fangirlism, and there's a time when you should just leave them the hell alone and let them get on with their lives.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 28th, 2008 11:26 am (UTC) (Link)
I can't stand tabloid-type magazines, TV shows, and web sites, but I do enjoy sharing the squee here on LJ. I came to this show as a Supes fan first, but I'm even more of a Tom fan now.

One thing I like about fandom is how much fun we can have loving Tom without bothering him one little bit! :) He doesn't even know we exist, and yet he brings us (or me, at least) great joy. And the friendships I've made are the very best part of fandom!
eeyore1017 From: eeyore1017 Date: July 31st, 2008 05:46 am (UTC) (Link)
Hi Tariel22! (I'm brianne1017 over at TWoP)
I go back and forth about the whole paparazzi issue as well. I do look at and save the candids that are out there, but no one is making any money off of me by me doing that, so that's how I justify it.
I work at a local TV station and recently we had Brendan Fraser come in for an interview. I really wanted to meet him and take a picture with him, but I was very shy/nervous. After his TV interview was over, I went into the studio to try and get up the nerve to ask him for a picture, but he was talking to someone. I turned to one of his "people" and asked her if I could take a quick picture with him. She said no because they were in a hurry. A few seconds after that, Brendan and his entourage left. My immediate reaction was disappointment and to think "how long would it take for one picture?" but then I thought, "well, if he takes one with me, then everyone else will want one too." I was sad but I understood. Who knows- maybe if I had asked Brendan himself, he would have agreed. I think I had a point in here somewhere... :-) Sorry this comment is so long...My Brendan story reminds me of a Tom story I read about someone who was on line at the airport behind (or near) him and his wife. The person asked Tom to sign their boarding pass and Tom said no. The automatic reaction was that Tom was a jerk and the worst person ever. I think that when we start to go crazy as fangirls, we have to try and stop ourselves and remind ourselves that Tom is a person too. Maybe he didn't want to sign the boarding pass because he didn't want to create scene. Maybe he was tired or of the mindset that this was his personal time and wanted to be left alone. Who knows? I think that a distinction that Tom has always made is that he wants to be an "actor" and not a "celebrity." An actor would be someone like Al Pacino or even Johnny Depp whereas a celebrity is someone like Britney Spears or Lindsay Lohan. I totally agree with his choice about that, it just makes worshipping him a little harder. By the way, if I ever did see Tom on the street or if g-d forbid he came to my TV station, I would definitely want to meet him and get an autograph or picture, but I might be too busy shaking to death. Especially on the street I would more than likely not approach him- unless I was a part of a crowd of fangirls.
One more thing- I watch Tori Spelling's reality show and she has paparazzi following her all the time. In her case, one might think that she's asking for it since she already has cameras following her around for her reality show so she's automatically drawing attention to herself. On the other hand, is it really necessary for them to follow her and take pictures while she and her husband visit the ob-gyn or register for baby gifts?
To make a long post even longer- basically, I agree with you. :-)
Really sorry for all the rambling.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: July 31st, 2008 02:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
Well, hi there! *waves* I didn't know you were on LJ! I post a lot more here than on TWoP, especially when my RL gets crazy busy as it is right now. I love your icon! I totally snagged that pic from you for the scruffy Tom picspam that I'm talking about in this entry. Now that I know your LJ name, I'll go amend my credit line to include you! :)

That's totally cool that you got to see Brendan Fraser in person, even if you didn't get a pic. You'll always have that memory! I wonder, too, if he might have said yes. His people probably see themselves as protecting him, or running interference for him, so they're probably always going to say no. OTOH, if you had asked him, and he personally said no to you, that might have left you with a bad feeling about the whole encounter. I think the way you handled it was probably best.

Isn't it funny how Brendan Fraser has this sort of six degrees connection to Smallville now, because of AlMiles writing The Mummy 3? Every time I see a trailer for that movie, that's all I can think about.

I don't blame Tom for saying no to the person in the airport. He was there as a private person, with his wife, not making a public appearance. But then I don't really get the whole autograph thing anyway. If I had a moment to say something to Tom, and if I could actually form words, I would try for a quick thank you rather than a request. Realistically, though, I'm sure I would never get past stealing glances from afar. I'm way too shy to ever approach anyone.

And please don't apologize for rambling. You're welcome to express yourself here! :)
ivorykiss From: ivorykiss Date: August 1st, 2008 09:50 am (UTC) (Link)
I freely admit I'm a Tommy pic ho and I so want them all *g*, but... sometimes I think the stalkerazzie go too far.

Tom, like everybody else, deserves his privacy, but... I do feel that ones taken in a public place (walking on the street or the shopping ones) and for as obviously annoyed as he is in some of those, they aren't violating his privacy.

He's in public. He's a very pretty man. And he's a celebrity.

He is, for the lack of a better phrase, fair game for getting photographed in those situations.

Will I look at them. Yeah. Do I feel bad about it? Sometimes. (Especially the ones where he is so obviously not happy at being photographed, like the ones on his porch.) Will I stop looking at them when they show up? Probably not. :/


I guess I'm a hypocrite. I may not like those 'annoyed' candids, but I still look at them.

Sorry about the rambling.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: August 1st, 2008 01:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
You're welcome to ramble in my journal anytime! :)

I know exactly what you mean. I feel like a hypocrite myself. While I could never intrude on Tom the way the paparazzi do, I look at all the pics when they pop up. But the ones where he's glaring at the camera (those ones where he's carrying coffee come to mind) make me feel like he's looking right at me, condemning me personally for looking at them! LOL!

And whenever I see someone post those pics of him on his porch (which make me cringe), I always feel compelled to post the only one of those that I have saved: the one where he went inside, showered, changed clothes, combed his hair, and then came back out, still shirtless, for one more death stare at the photographer. When he went to all that trouble to show that yes, he is totally hot, thank you very much, the least I can do is spread that one perfect pic in the wake of the less flattering ones! :D
whimsywinx From: whimsywinx Date: August 3rd, 2008 04:50 am (UTC) (Link)
Mmmmm . . .

While I always long for more information on my fav celebs, I also feel dirty looking at the gossip headlines. I try to respect their privacy, because so many others don't.
tariel22 From: tariel22 Date: August 4th, 2008 03:37 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm not surprised to find we think alike on this one. :)

I would never want to invade someone's privacy. That's why I've become convinced that the Cons are the way to go. No one forces the guests to come, so everyone is totally up for the fan experience, and everyone can enjoy it. Plus there's the added bonus of partying with the other fangirls!
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